How to Quick Close the Gap Between You and A Goal

by Wendy Down on April 17, 2018

Me, centre with my son, Nick and daughter, Haley. Just sharing because I love those rascals. Plus, I like the way Nick’s pants match the fall trees in the background.

A common description of Life Coaching is, ‘it helps you close the gap between where you are and where you want to be‘. Life Coaching’s focus is on the future, which distinguishes it from therapy or counselling which often address the past.

In my early coaching days, I helped my clients primarily through strategy and action.  “Your goal is to start your small business so… are you ready to begin working on that website?”

While taking action is important, those early clients helped me achieve deeper insight; actions taken towards our dreams put us in direct contact with the emotional roadblocks that have been holding us back.  When we start to move forward, we come face-to-face with feelings previously tucked in the recesses. Uncomfortable feelings like fear, overwhelm, risk and uncertainty come to the fore.

So, my coaching approach evolved. I started helping my clients first move forward emotionally during our conversations. Always, the most pressing emotion to address becomes naturally apparent as they start describing where they are at with a goal or intention that day.

I began using ’emotional energy shifting’ processes, (ones that pre-dated my IN DEEPER process described here), to help my clients achieve stronger footing, greater certainty and clearer vision with which to proceed.

Said another way, I learned how useful it is, when closing the gap between where you are and where you want to be in life, to first close the emotional gap between how you feel and how you want to feel.

When we’ve taken a moment to move through and beyond conflicted emotions, they can’t get in the way when we take our next step.  Fears, inner conflicts, doubts and worries, once absenced, aren’t there to trip us up.  We feel free and confident as we choose the next action and take it. We become increasingly lighter as we move towards our goal.

We don’t have to wait to achieve our goal before we feel really, really good. We become happier as thing are now, while eager for what’s next.

The emotional path towards any goal is rich and layered; a journey worth taking for its own sake. Truth be told, the underlying reason we usually have a goal is because we believe that when we reach it, we will then feel something we don’t currently feel.

“If I find the perfect partner, I’ll feel happy rather than alone.”

“If I have more money, I’ll feel secure rather than worried.”

“If I start a successful business, I’ll feel fulfilled rather than bored.”

That’s why, in this post I invited you to to discover why you want the goal you want.  Chances are, if there’s something different that you want, there’s also something different you want to feel. Some feeling that, by changing your body, relationship status, job, finances or creative expression you anticipate you’ll automatically feel.

The trouble with trying to achieve a better feeling by changing a circumstance is that manipulating physical objects like your body, business, bank account or other people is slow going. Physical structures are dense and, generally speaking, require a large investment of energy, intention, action and focus to reshape.

By contrast, emotions, being semi-solid structures like I describe in this post, will respond to intention and self-awareness very quickly.

Composed of energetic ‘substance’ rather than physical molecules, ‘negative’ emotional structures will often assume more pleasing expressions within minutes, once you get the hang of working with them.  You can see this for yourself by working with me on this recording here.

(A side note on that: if you worked with that recording once already, go back and work with it again. You’ll find your emotional energy has changed since the first time. It will be less intense, different in form, texture and perhaps position.  If you use the recording to let your awareness pass thorough through it several times, it will be completely gone. Space left where discomfort was before. I promise… but let me know!)

By moving through our emotions concerning a goal or intention, we discover a great wonder; we don’t actually have to wait for the goal before we can feel the way we want to feel.  

We can move through self-criticism to find we actually love our body before we’ve lost the weight. We can move through frustration and find we feel fulfilled before we change the job. We can move through survival fears and find ourselves feeling at peace before the test results come back.

The emotional work is powerful and gets easier and more interesting over time too. It’s like finding an undiscovered landscape within ourselves that responds to our creative touch. We become emotionally intelligent and can become highly adept and skilled. This has nothing to do with age either. Some of the most skilled emotion-shifters are kids.

And best of all, in the quirky way that quantum physics tells us ‘everything is connected’, we start to suspect that as we reshape our emotional world, the physical world around us changes as well. Weird coincidences and synchronicities start to happen…

These are personal discoveries that will be made by those who join my upcoming 6 month coaching program/PhD study.

For the record, fingers crossed, that program is tentatively scheduled to launch in June and I will post the registration links I discussed here late May.  Stay tuned!


What Will the 6-Month Coaching Program Cost?

by Wendy Down on April 3, 2018


With the content little frog that sits crosslegged on my desk.

The past week or two I’ve been happily reading and responding to the goals of people who want to join the 6-month coaching program I’m getting ready to launch.

The range of topics is wide and I am flush with ideas for those who wish to take part. Today I thought I’d share some behind-the-scenes about the cost of the program.

Speaking of behind-the-scenes, below is a photo of my view as I type right now. A large meditating frog (given to me by a dear client years ago) sits to the right of my computer. His silly, relaxed manner reminds me I can be the same. He never judges me, and I never judge him. We are pals.

My inspiration as I work.  The epitome of chill.

Pricing a service like coaching is not unlike pricing a painting, I suspect. How do you determine its value and who gets to decide?  Over the years, I’ve priced my coaching low, I’ve priced it high and mid-range. With this upcoming program, I’ve been committed to finding a price that I know is, hands down, the right one. This past week, the details came to me with clarity.

What helped was connecting with so many of you about your goals.  I see myself in many of your stories and it’s lovely to be surrounded by kindred spirits.

What so many of us share is a yearning to be comfortable in our lives and our own skins. To feel good, be happy and to contribute to the world in a way that authentically expresses who we really are. (A prospect that is also terrifying at the start.)

Many of us have a dream calling us forward, in some cases for years now.  We can’t stop thinking about a situation we’d love to be living, but aren’t yet. Energetically, it teases us across a deep chasm of the unknown. When we allow ourselves to peek, we feel exhilarated by its potential while simultaneously unnerved by the facts; we don’t have a clue how to get from here to there.

The decision to throw ourselves into that journey thrills me.

My comfort zone – what the physics of me were designed to do – is to stand with another in their greatest unknown and walk through it with them; towards the version of themselves that beckons from the other side. As we go, we can highlight the strength and courage it takes and relish each small, significant step through that abyss.

My role is easy as I have utter confidence in our ability to traverse the gap between us and our dreams; I understand how and why it all eventually works out. So naturally, I can’t wait to walk through the unknowns with a remarkable, brave group of people. I want to set a pricing structure that will both honour the value of what I’ll be bringing while meeting each person where they are at financially. So here’s where it’s at.

If I was offering this 6-month program without it being part of my PhD research, I’d price it at $159USD/month.  In fact, if anyone wants to join the program without being part of the research study data, that’s an option at this price.

But since the program will help me measure the success of my coaching approach, I want to express my appreciation to those who help me in that way. A 50% discount seems in order. Therefore, the price of the program will be $79USD/month.  I hope most interested members will see that as fair and reasonable and can afford it.

However. I also understand that some members won’t be in a position to afford $79/month. If you’re in that situation, I’ll offer a second option of $33USD/month.  33 is one of my favorite numbers, that why. It’s also the number of transformation, apparently.

When the registration links become available, then, you’ll simply choose the price point you can afford.  You won’t have to explain your choice to me. Whether you choose the $79 or the $33 monthly fee, you’ll enter the same program.

In case that still doesn’t cover your situation, I’ll reserve place for two people to attend for $0. For free.  To ensure that those spots are only filled by those who cannot take part otherwise, anyone who requests a free spot (but isn’t chosen) cannot later sign up through one of the paid options.

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. I hope to kick the program off within the next 6-8 weeks. Fingers crossed, but no promises.


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This past summer I had the good fortune to spend an evening with Dr. Amit Goswami,  quantum physicist, prolific writer and teacher. His jam, to use my daughter’s term, is explaining the link between consciousness and physical reality using scientific principles.  He and I had been emailing back and forth about the mutually supportive connection […]

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Hello again, friends. That’s me in the photo, left, eyeing the collection of quotes, concepts and images that will be woven into the PhD study I hope you’ll decide to become a part of. I spent this morning getting a handle on what exactly is required of my study and dissertation. Within 20 minutes, I’d […]

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Several months ago, we Consciouseers announced an experiment to observe pain change by changing your consciousness around it.   We invited you to predict how you’d know if the experiment worked here. You determined your candidacy for the experiment here and accepted the stand you’d need to take to take part. Then we all got down to business. A group of non-physical teachers […]

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Pain and Your Microbiome – Pain Experiment Post #11

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Good day, experimenters. Today’s Pain Experiment post offers an ingenious twist on pain you won’t find anywhere else.   Can’t find anywhere else. ‘Cuz in addition to being a co-leader (Consciouseer) in this experiment, its author Rodney Dietert is a world authority in the burgeoning science of the human microbiome.  You might recall his last […]

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Pain as a Messenger – Pain Experiment Post #10

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Hello!  Let’s carry on with The Pain Experiment. Today, co-leader Janice Dietert takes the helm, sharing her own story with pain, including recent pain.  May her honesty touch you and her words unlock something important in your own journey.  Enjoy! ***** PAIN AS MESSENGER I have to admit that I’ve struggled to write this article. The […]

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