How Will Your Goal Change YOU?

by Wendy Down on April 25, 2018

Hi again friends.

Of the many articles I’ve written over the years, I’m personally fond of the post I wrote last week. It made me wonder… do you have a favorite from over the years?  And if so, what was it about?

As we gear up for the  6-month coaching program I’m launching in – fingers crossed – June, I want to invite you to consider how a goal or intention you’re working towards will change you.

(Side note: read on for details about how the 6-month program will be delivered.)

To be clear, we’re talking about having a goal that makes your heart sing and envisioning a future that’s exciting to imagine, rather than one you think you should achieve.

As you anticipate the delightful thought of living such a goal, you’ll naturally have doubts arise too like, “What if I don’t have what it will take?”  

So this is the question I want to address today.

Several years ago, my own heart sung at the thought of achieving some highly unconventional things. For example, it thrilled me to imagine using consciousness to become measurably younger over time and to regenerate organs and tissues.

When those dreams were still in the future, I realized that if I dared move towards them, I’d have to beef up certain qualities within myself.  I’d have to become braver. I’d have to become unfazed by ridicule, misunderstanding and dismissal. And I’d have to rely on benevolent forces beyond myself to achieve results I clearly didn’t have within my human capabilities to achieve.

Braver, unfazed by ridicule and more reliant on benevolent forces.   To achieve the unconventional outcomes I wanted, I saw that I would also have to become a somewhat different person.

The great thing about naming the qualities a goal will require of you is that suddenly you also see opportunities everywhere to practice them.

In my own example, I could become braver by taking small steps in areas of my life totally unrelated to my goal. I could make braver clothing choices or try unusual recipes.  Simple, do-able new choices like those would also require bravery of me.

I personally believe that one reason we even have goals is because they invite us to discover aspects of ourselves we haven’t discovered yet.  A goal – and the journey towards it – helps us express new capacities, skills and strengths.  In my experiences, these discoveries about ourselves are the real goals that delights us most.  

And fortunately, you don’t have to wait another day to start cultivating the qualities required by a future goal.

To begin today, bring to mind a goal or intention you have for yourself.

Then ask yourself these questions:

When I envision myself on the day I’ve achieved my goal, what will I be seeing in myself and feeling about myself that will be so, so satisfying? 


when I think about the journey towards my goal, what personal qualities will I rely upon to get me there? 

Once you’ve named them, I’d suggest writing them down somewhere you’ll see them every day. Put a post-it note on your bathroom mirror, make the words the screen saver on your digital device, or whatever appeals to you.

Mine were, “Brave, unfazed by ridicule, reliant on benevolent forces.” 

Yours are likely to be completely different.

Name those qualities, keep them in front of you and you’ll suddenly start noticing places in your life where you can practice them. Small ways, big ways, lots of ways!

If you like, leave a comment below listing the qualities your goal will draw out of you.


And before you go, here are the program details I promised.  If you’ve taken programs with me in the past, you’ll recognize the format.


With this program, you won’t be required to attend any scheduled live events; rather all offerings are time-flexible to fit into your schedule. The delivery format consists of audio-recordings, written material and interaction through a private members-only Facebook group.  To make the content bite-sized and comfortably spaced out, I’ll release new content on the same days each month.

On the first and third Tuesday of the month, I’ll post a new audio-recording. In these, I may share a new concept or tool and probably guide you through an energy-shifting meditation.  These recordings will address topics relevant to anyone with a goal. Usually they will be no longer than 25 or 30 minutes.

On the first three Fridays of each month, I’ll write a short article, ‘The Tip of the Week’. One tip might help you glean the most from the latest audio-recording, another might suggest how to apply a general concept directly to your own goal. Some might grow out of conversation happening between members and myself in…

The private Facebook group.  This is where our interaction will happen. It’s where I’ll answer questions and offer coaching specific to people’s situations. It will be where you can ask questions, share your experiences, ask for and give support.

On last week of each month, we will take a break. There will not be new content on the last week of the month. Instead, you’ll have that time to use as you like, perhaps to work on goal-related tasks, or to enjoy other aspects of your life.   Time off-task is important too for life-balance and for enjoyment of the journey.

So that’s that for today.

See you here again soon!

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Daliah May 12, 2018 at 2:04 pm

Thank you, Wendy.

Alana May 10, 2018 at 6:14 pm

My goal is an essential part of the qualities of my New Self. I will have verified that the body changes just by working with energy, I will walk lighter, I will cook differently, I will be closer and closer to cultivating my own garden, and above all, I will be deliciously feeling Source vibrating in my cells. I will have deep confidence in the interrelation of everything with everything, I will be included, and I will feel that everything is equally included.

Lisa May 2, 2018 at 3:18 am

I think my qualities would be bold, considerate, and open to possibilities…. I didn’t realize until recently that I put a lot of roadblocks up for myself. Essentially, just exactly what this post is about! Thank you! I look forward to seeing a shift in my thought processes!

Neva May 1, 2018 at 4:58 pm

Wendy: This was a good post for me to read today because it highlighted where I’m kinda out of sync with setting specific goals. I don’t have a “goal” as much as an overall idea about my life, if that makes sense. I don’t know if I have to break that down into specific goals but, if so, I struggle with that. I just know that I want to be creatively involved in activities that are enjoyable for me and valuable when shared with others. It’s such an overarching vision that I have trouble calling it a goal. Nonetheless, I do see qualities I need to get there. I see some things that need to shift in me. Thank you!

Neva Howell May 2, 2018 at 10:22 am

Wendy: This morning, after seeing Lisa’s response, I realized that I had not come up with the qualities I would need to live a life doing what is enjoyable for me and valuable for others. I came up with the first of the three … creatively stimulated. Don’t have the other two yet but that one has definitely been missing.